Children count on their parents to meet their needs. Some may worry about what will happen if their parents decide to divorce. It’s up to the parents to ensure the children are properly cared for and adjusting well to the divorce.
One thing that some parents don’t realize is that the tone present during their divorce has a direct impact on how the parenting relationship works. A calm divorce will likely be a better foundation for a calm parenting plan.
How can you have a calm divorce?
You and your ex must put differences aside to work through divorce matters. Mostly, the reasons for the divorce aren’t going to play a role in what happens from here. There are some exceptions if there was abuse present.
Starting off with respectful communication is also beneficial. This sets the tone for the parenting relationship. When both parents can communicate without a lot of tension, the children will often fare better because they aren’t forced to deal with drama all the time.
Children who see their parents working together for their good have stability despite the divorce. This can help them to adjust better. It also provides them with a positive example of appropriate behavior in challenging circumstances that can benefit them now and throughout adulthood.
You and your ex should work diligently to ensure the children’s needs are met during the divorce and after. Once the parenting plan is set up, the children can have the stability they need to thrive. The terms should reflect the current needs and can be modified as their needs change in the future.