Raising a child with someone you aren’t involved with romantically isn’t an easy feat. Both adults will have to make changes that benefit the children so the situation can work. Regardless of what type of parenting arrangement you have, keeping things as simple as possible can reduce the stress for everyone.
One of the most important things to remember is that the children have to remain the focus of the situation. You must do what’s best for them, so be sure that’s your consideration as you’re making decisions.
Set the terms of the parenting plan
The terms that you have in the parenting plan set the expectations for raising the children. It’s imperative that you have a plan that puts the children first. You should know who’s responsible for making decisions in specific areas. You also need to review the parenting time schedule to find out when the child will be with each parent.
You and your ex have to remain respectful as you discuss things about the children. You can’t let emotions get the better of you. Have a plan set for what should happen if there are disagreements. Unless there’s an emergency, either adult should be able to take some time to calm down and think about the situation if things get heated. Be sure you’re communicating directly with your ex. The kids shouldn’t ever be used as messengers for the adults.
Never try to micromanage what happens when your child is with the other parent. The only time you should be concerned about the things that go on at your ex’s place is when your child is being placed in danger. Unless there are direct violations of the parenting plan or the kids’ health or safety are at risk, stick to worrying about what’s going on in your own home.